Post 2, I have actually written letters, as well. Maybe I can be that guy. Time will tell.

Missing someone seems a rather selfish activity. It is why I struggle bother to remind someone they are missed. If I tell you I will miss you, trust me that is a promise will keep. I know my wife has noticed other spouses constantly calling, texting loved ones while away.

Rationale, first as stated above I have told you "you will be missed". I don't lie with that phrase. Second, if I said I am thinking about you then I will be. Promises made, promises kept. Third, if you are away you must be doing something and I don't understand how multiple messages, texts, etc. do anything other than distract from the task at hand. I can see how it might feel like doting and caring to some. To me it feels like nagging.

So all this means, don't treat me this away. How I like to be treated does not give me the right to assume everyone is just like me. Respect is treating others how they want to be treated.  So, I make sure I get the daily call into my wife. I am writing a blog and letters to my child at college.

Besides as I wrote in today's letter, missing someone is easily tempered by the excitement and opportunity to see new growth in loved ones upon their return. Accepting that helps me understand it is not nagging or doting, it is encouragement, love and support. We all need that.